ABOUT LOVE

To me, Love is an unconditional, and most times unearned weave of warmth that connects two people – man to man, woman to woman, man to woman. It is often generated not as a result of one specific action but as a result of a series of events. Its is also often expressed in ways that only the people in the relationship understand and to others outside the relationship, the expressions could seem like everything but love. Love can be found anywhere but the purity of it is what cannot always be guaranteed. It is easy to point the finger at people who claim to be unable to find love and blame the black hole inside them for their emptiness and inability to find the ultimate feeling. But if we look closely at ourselves, many of us who point the finger have a bigger hole inside us and this is, more often than not, the reason why we are quick to spot the same traits that we felt when the love juice in our lives started drying up.
One of the most asked questions amongst men and women is about when and how you know you are in love. The answer is simple. If you can put your hand on your earth and say of someone else that you have an unconditional, unearned feeling of warmth between you and the person, that is the beginning. You are not in love because you cannot stop thinking about someone, or you get butterflies in your stomach every time you are around someone. The fact that you have admired someone for all your life or spent all your life with a person doesn't mean you are in love either. Love does not happen overnight. It is a process that starts from one point and can take whatever route it is destined to.
Another question that is often asked is whether love at first sight is possible. In my humble opinion, love at first sight is a myth. The myth of love at first sight is created out of the impatience of people who do not want to think of or go through the process of falling in love. These are the people who do not want to endure the toil but want to reap the harvest. Love is an art, not a science and that means that the presence of the right components and the following of the right procedure does not guarantee the expected result.
People also asked whether it is possible to fall out of love. I think it is possible to fall out of love but a justifiable case will be hard to find. For the two parties to be able to say that at one point, after a period of time, they felt an unconditional, unearned feeling of warmth between themselves but due to circumstances beyond their controls, the tide had turned and there was no more warmth between them, it will take the coming together of many factors that are beyond my imagination.
So next time you guys meet a girl, and you girls meet a guy and you get all fuzzy inside and your brains start to paint pictures of what could be, just tell yourself “maybe love is not the way I'm feeling. Maybe all these feelings are just a conjecture of what might be or what I want.”
But maybe I am the least qualified to talk about love. Maybe I'm not. Maybe first timers and veterans are all just skinning the cat in their own different ways. Maybe we all have the same amount of love inside us but the level of our understanding of love is what determines how much love we show/give to people around us.
Sometimes it feels like everyone and no one is in love at the same time. Sometimes I ask myself what love is. Is it an emotion, an expression, a mood, a feeling, an infilling or just something else that words cannot describe. Maybe no one will ever know the fullness of love. Maybe at the end of the day, we will all find out that what we thought was love was just a mirage and the real thing is a million miles away. One thing I know for sure, regardless of all the maybes, is that love is real